Creating a stagers trigger for ourself. This is something that reminds us to relax. It could be an action, like putting the phone off, or closing our computer down. Every time we do this action, take…
Creating a stagers trigger for ourself.
Take three minute breaks from your daily schedule, perhaps in pauses between tasks, or as breaks when things are becoming stressful.
Take three minute breaks from your daily schedule, perhaps in pauses between tasks, or as breaks when things are becoming stressful.
This is a simple yet effective practice that illustrates how the way we pay attention changes the nature of our experience. We have different ways of looking, both at the external world and, more me…
When we try to meditate we begin to see just how unruly the mind is as it wanders here and there in a seemingly random way.
When we try to meditate we begin to see just how unruly the mind is as it wanders here and there in a seemingly random way.
When we try to meditate we begin to see just how unruly the mind is as it wanders here and there in a seemingly random way. This gives us an opportunity to see how much of the time we live on automat…
Our practice is part of the path to complete liberation from limiting assumptions, views, emotions, and behaviours.
We have mixed feeling about the term “selflessness”. We might associate it with an ascetic self-denial, or with self-hatred. But the experience of lovingkindness teaches us that there is a loving, jo…
This change in our perspective is just the beginning of what can be a complete transformation in the way we see ourselves.
We tend to see a sharp distinction between “inside” and “outside,” “self” and “other.”These are distinctions that seem to so natural that we rarely, if ever, question them. And yet we've seen that t…
We do, in fact often live in a state of “hallucination”
Having an argument with yourself, although you think you’re arguing with another person because you’re (in a way) hallucinating. We do, in fact often live in a state of “hallucination”, where we conf…
The practice of lovingkindness can fundamentally alter our attitudes and understandings about our relationship with the world.
The practice of lovingkindness can fundamentally alter our attitudes and understandings about our relationship with the world. Here’s an example: have you ever had the experience of having an argumen…
Lovingkindness practice with the help of our child within
Lovingkindness practice with the help of our child within — both in our meditation and in daily life — can play a major part in the development of wisdom, or insight. We are learning some useful thin…
When we find we’ve become embroiled in an argument
When we find we’ve become embroiled in an argument, then ask ourself and the other person, “Do we want to resolve this, or do we want to win?” The idea of “winning” comes from an ego-based and highly…
Our speech is one of the most important ways we can take into the world our lovingkindness
Our speech is one of the most important ways we can take into the world our lovingkindness, or that we develop in meditation . We’ve said already that mindful speech should not only be honest, but sh…
A powerful way of expressing lovingkindness towards ourselves and others is to practice truthful speech.
A powerful way of expressing lovingkindness towards ourselves and others is to practice truthful speech. It’s interesting to become more aware of why we’re untruthful. Sometimes it’s for gain (for in…
Apology can be a form of meditation in action.
Apology can be a form of meditation in action. Apology is being honest with another person about something we’ve done to hurt or disappoint them. And actually, when we’re apologizing we’re also being…
Apologising involves letting go of our defences and allowing ourselves to be seen as imperfect.
Apologising involves letting go of our defences and allowing ourselves to be seen as imperfect. In doing this we give people the gift of being related to authentically.And we’re recognizing ourselves…
Sharing as a gift, That’s a real friend, and such friends are all too rare.
Sharing is not necessarily directed to others we’ve offended. When we’re sharing, we’re being honest with a third party (and with ourselves, of course) about who we are and what we have done. But in …
Giving forgiveness
Giving forgiveness
Giving forgivenessWe should, in the spirit of lovingkindness, be prepared to forgive others when they apologise to us. To withhold forgiveness in order to hurt another person or out of self-righteous…
Equanimity, means that our LovingKindness is quite unshakable
Equanimity, means that our LovingKindness is quite unshakable
Equanimity, means that our LovingKindness is quite unshakable despite an awareness of how all beings bring about, in large part, their own joys and sufferings. Equanimity is a calm, loving awareness …
The power of appreciation Speaking the truth on a deeper level
The power of appreciation Speaking the truth on a deeper level
The power of appreciationSpeaking the truth on a deeper levelOur speech is one of the most important ways we can take into the world the lovingkindness, or metta, that we develop in meditation .I’ve s…
Mindfulness of the truth Bringing mindfulness into our speech
Mindfulness of the truthBringing mindfulness into our speechWe benefit from practicing lovingkindness, or metta, not just on the meditation cushion but in our daily lives.And one powerful way of expre…
LovingKindness, diet, and lifestyle
LovingKindness, diet, and lifestyleOne thing we can do to bring more lovingkindness into our lives is to look at the effects of our everyday actions. We all tend to see ourselves as consumers these da…
Deep penetration into the way that we construct – for good or ill – our own experience through the actions we make.
Deep penetration into the way that we construct – for good or ill – our own experience through the actions we make.
Dimensions of LovingKindness PracticeThe development of lovingkindness, practice is one of a set of related practices collectively known as the “Child Withins Home” – because they are such fulfilling…
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